#leapfear Day 8 – M.

M. has come so far in such a short time.  She has chosen to find solace in her dance rather than reject it as many might have.  She is centered and graceful like so many dancers but it is also an internal sense of grounding.  There is a richness to her inner life that is apparent as she stood in front of my camera.  She now knows that she is strong and worthy of so much in life.  I have no doubt that her future is bright.

Her beauty shines throughout in this session. Her last sentence inspired the choice of the last pair of images. I played with dark and light and the flower just makes me so very happy.  I think it helps up to connect to another part of ourselves at times.  Playful? In touch with nature? A younger and more innocent version of ourselves? It is up to you to decide.

M. asked that her full name not be used, although she was very confident in sharing her story.  When I checked in with her, she said to me:  “I feel I’ve grown up faster and realize more about the world and it has moulded me into the person I’ve become today.”  As much as we don’t ever wish these things for anyone, M. wanted to give hope to people that there can be good days after such dark ones.


What changed that made you realize you were living a life of fear?

Two years ago I thought I was in love with a man who was almost twice my age at the time. He was my best friend, my confidante. Until we started fighting. It was already an unhealthy relationship. It was secretive, he was much older than I and he became mentally abusive. He was my dance instructor and I ended up having to leave my studio and the basketball team in which I danced for because of this man.


Once you realized that you were living a life in fear, what stopped you from moving forward? What held you back for so long?

What stopped me from moving forward? I was in love. The definition of Love: A deep romantic attachment to someone. Love is a difficult emotion to describe but I loved this man, he was someone I could confide and find comfort in.


Once you did take the leap, what did you have to let go of?

Once I took the giant leap, I had to let go of him, my dance studio, and the Basketball team in which I was a dancer on their dance pack.2016-02-08_0005.jpg

Once you let go, what did you find on the other side that was worth taking the leap?

I found another Dance School, there I met a wonderful, encouraging woman named Lacey. She nurtured me and assisted me in falling in love with an art form that I thought was lost.


What would you tell someone whose fears are still holding them back?

You cannot change others only yourself. Listen and be true to who you are as a person. Never give up on something because someone has destroyed or taken it for you. Go out and blossom to become the person you aspire to be.